Shopping for Dummies
I’ve never once dated a guy who liked to shop. No, that’s not even accurate. I’ve never once dated a guy who didn’t hate to shop.
How is that possible, you might wonder. How could we even be friends?
Well, let’s start in the beginning. The one guy in high school who paid attention to what I wore, the one I had such a secret crush on, had come out by our ten-year reunion. The guy I did date was more into his band. . . and his car. And wasn’t so smart. The not-shopping thing was merely one of the many reasons why I now wonder how we could have even been friends.
At the beginning of college the boyfriend was a serious, save-the-earth New Englander. Didn’t much appreciate the superficial things in life. My shopping habits during that relationship were so unhealthy: the secret binging, the feigned indifference, the denials (all so easy to sustain because Mr. Serious hardly would’ve noticed a new outfit). It was as if he only knew half of me. And not the fun half either! I’m glad that I’ve grown up and embraced my materialism — or at least that I’m comfortable enough to be honest about (and only a wee bit embarrassed by) it.
Later, there were others — mostly the bored tag-alongers who carried the bags and bought uninspired birthday presents at Victoria’s Secret. (And who hasn’t dated one of those? How could you not when the world is littered with them?)
So why have I never dated the Richard Gere-in-Pretty Woman type of guy? Well, for one thing, I’m not too keen on dating a guy who hires prostitutes, but maybe that’s just me. Aside from that, I also suspect it’s one of those “be careful what you wish for” deals. Do you really, truly, deep in your soul want to be with a guy who shops as much as you do? Who wants to tag along every time you go to Neiman’s? (Come on, some things are sacred!)
And let’s be realistic here: There just wouldn’t be enough closet space in this town for the both of us!
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January 13th, 2006 12:14
And remember too, that the shopping is usually All About Me! I can’t imagine shopping with a man who wanted it to be All About Him. And we’d have to be in separate departments! I suppose we could make Him trips and Me trips (which we kind of do) but my guy prefers buying to shopping, and that is fine with me!
January 13th, 2006 14:00
Every time I think of a guy who actually *likes* to shop, I am reminded of the movie “Clueless” and the gorgeous James Dean wanna-be character named Christian. Its SO true…damn good-looking, well-dressed cake boys!
January 14th, 2006 22:28
My boyfriend is generally the same way, except that when he actually wants to shop, he won’t say it…he’ll just ask to tag along and then hijack one of my shopping trips! He’ll ask me to take a look at something and then next thing I know he’s reeled off a list of items he needs and I’m playing the dressing room runner. But it’s not the worst thing in the world–at least I have some power over what he wears!
January 15th, 2006 06:06
My husband hates shopping, but one of my ex-boyfriends was so concerned about himself and his high-maintenance shopping that drove me crazy. I decided to break down the relationship because under this shopping-craze there was a very insecure person….After that experience, I decided not to date guys who love shopping anymore.